“Throughout the centuries there were men who took first steps down new roads armed with nothing but their own vision.”
-Ayn Rand, was a Russian-American novelist, philosopher, playwright, and screenwriter.
Self-Motivation is not something that is easy to come by.
How can you motivate yourself?
There will always be times in your life when you have to perform tasks that you deem unpleasant for one reason or another – working with a co-worker you don’t like, going to work on Mondays, taking the garbage out, driving to meet the in-laws at the airport, having dinner with the spouse’s friends…
Doing these things just siphons whatever motivation you have inside you and makes you feel sad, tired, sorry, even annoyed. But did you know that there are also things inside you that actually make it difficult to feel excited and enthusiastic?
Get to know the factors that make hard to get motivated:
Your mindset is a major factor that can get in the way of motivation. This is because it can severely limit your understanding of the world and all experiences in general. Your mindset can be a mine field of barriers. These walls are composed of old beliefs, prejudices, biases and standards. For example, if you refuse to believe that you can actually write for a famous magazine because you’re a person from a small town, you’ll miss out on an opportunity to expose your talent and reap its rewards.
Your comfort zone
We all have certain limitations in our minds. These limits are things we decide on based on our own personal beliefs, ethics and standards. Within these limits, we feel comfortable and safe, like a nice warm blanket.
Once we approach the outer edges of our blankie, we begin to feel discomfort, shyness, embarrassment or annoyance. We just don’t want to go any further because we just can’t look past what we don’t know or haven’t experienced. Because we have a fear of the unknown, we’d rather stay within our comfort zones because we feel safe and secure.
The problem is that a narrow comfort zone can get in the way of your motivation. Each time you are presented with a new idea or experience, you check to see if it fits into your comfort zone. If it doesn’t, then you simply refuse, no questions asked. This is unfortunate because many of these ideas and experiences can be good for you. But you’ll probably never know because you don’t have the motivation to try them.
Your past experience
Your background – personal, social and professional experiences – has a lot to do with how you decide things in your life. They can also be factors that get in the way of motivation. If these experiences are negative, they tend to make you more hesitant and unsure of yourself because they affect your self-esteem and confidence.
For Example, if you’ve only been met with rejection or ridicule in your life, it wouldn’t be hard to imagine if you don’t feel a strong need to excel or to improve yourself. You’ll probably be thinking – ‘So what? Nothing I ever did was good anyway. Why would things change now?’ Unless you consciously make an effort to identify these past experiences and then refuse to let them rule your life, you will always be hard to motivate.
However, there are a few tips that you can consider when you feel that you cannot push yourself further or farther.
1. Know exactly what you want. What are you motivating yourself to do? Do you merely want to finish a job, or do you want to earn a lot of money? Set tangible or realistic goals for yourself. If you know exactly what you want, you can get it, and you can motivate yourself to get it.
2. Make your passion your work. The problem with a lot of people is that they work hard but they don’t know what their work is for. Do they want money? Are they simply working toward money? Do you want money, or does your money have a purpose? Give yourself a tangible purpose so that you can know what you are working for. Striving for money is an empty goal; striving for money so that you can get a good house and a nice car might be more tangible; striving for more money so that you can help your siblings go to college, your parents to enjoy their retirement, and your family to have a better house and car might be even better.
3. Practice Self Care. Sometimes, being burned out means that you need to stay away from things for a moment, have some time alone to yourself, and get an outsider’s view of your situation. When you start getting fatigued more often, your body might be telling you to slow down; and slowing down can mean re-energizing yourself by taking a vacation, or even just taking a walk. You may want to set aside some alone time each day for you to recharge, so that you are not constantly being barraged with work.
4. Don’t be afraid to say no. Sometimes, you can get so much work or responsibilities that you are saturated with stress, and you reach the point where you simply want to give up. Keep things on a manageable level. You need to stay sane to keep keeping on.
5. Reward yourself! Plan a trip for yourself or promise to take yourself to the movies if you complete your work with little stress. Little rewards, a walk in the park or a spa day can work wonders on your stress level.
Ultimately Self-Motivation is your to command, if you take the necessarily steps to break free from your old mindset, your comfort zone and your past experiences and treat yourself with the respect that you so totally deserve. Create an environment that has only one purpose, to support and motivate you.
Photo Credit: By Tara Angkor Hotel